You’re lying awake at night asking yourself difficult questions about sex, love, and intimacy. Things like, “Why are sex and love so hard? I thought there was more to it than this.” Or “Why do I feel so alone in my relationship?” Or maybe you and your partner are asking: “We love each other. So why does being together feel so difficult?” Or “Why do we keep missing each other?”

Something about love, sex, or desire feels off in a way you can’t quite name, and it keeps you up at night. Yet you’ve never dared to say a thing about any of it out loud to another human being. Or if you have, you sense that your friends are sick of hearing you complain. So you’ve learned to hold it all inside, pretending it’s all fine. It’s not.

Heaven knows you’ve tried figuring it out on your own. You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, and gone down the late-night Google and Reddit rabbit holes.

And yet here you are…ready for more. More connection, more desire, more authenticity, more enjoyment. I work with individuals and couples/partners who want more and are ready to do something about it.

For the High Achiever Struggling to Figure Relationships Out

Deep down, you know that there is so much more to you than this pattern.

Maybe you’re high-achieving in every area of your life except this one. You are known to bring it as a professional, a friend, a parent, a family member, and in your relationships. You know you’re smart, yet it’s a struggle to figure this intimacy stuff out. You’ve feel embarrassed by how you shrink, shapeshift, cling, or shut down in romance.

And you’re exhausted by it all. In your better times, you give love freely, yet rarely feel loved back in the ways you long for. You’ve wondered, in raw moments: “If I truly loved myself, would I have stayed as long as I did?”

You’re also someone who has been doing the work: finding her voice, reclaiming herself, piece by piece. Your erotic self, your relational self, that primal, wise part of you that can never be fully silenced, is the last locked room. You feel curious, a little afraid, and maybe a touch of excitement about opening that door.

Nothing changes if nothing changes. You already know that. That’s why you’re here.

For Couples 

If you’re here as a couple, you’re probably not in crisis mode — not yet. You’re in the in-between. You still love each other. You both want this to work. But something has gone sideways, and you can feel the resentment creeping in and growing.

Maybe your libidos clash, communication has broken down, or you’ve been carrying a rupture that neither of you knows how to repair. Odds are you’ve never had the tools to do this kind of work together — and you’re finally ready to get them. And honestly? That’s not your fault. Schools would rather teach kids how to square dance than how to communicate healthily. Many families don’t model great relational skills either.

Couples work with me is honest, direct, and built on the belief that both of you deserve to be seen and heard. We’re going to figure out what’s getting in the way, and what’s possible on the other side of it.

A Note on Problematic Sexual Behavior

And if what’s keeping you up at night is something about your own sexual behavior, something you’ve held in silent shame, you’re also in the right place. You might be someone who’s trying to untangle your sexual identity or behaviors, including struggles with “porn addiction” or out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB). Whatever it is you can say it here. This is a shame-free zone.

Psychedelic Work (Optional!)

Sometimes the most significant breakthroughs don’t happen in a therapy office. Maybe you’ve had a psychedelic experience that cracked something open: profound, disorienting, or both. You caught a glimpse of something major about yourself, your relationships, or your life. You cannot UNsee it. And now you’re back in your regular world trying to figure out what to do with it. That’s exactly where I come in.

I offer psychedelic preparation and integration services for people working with altered states outside of therapy. Preparation means we go in intentionally, with clarity about what you’re hoping to access and a container strong enough to hold what comes up. Integration is where the real work happens: making meaning of the experience, metabolizing what surfaced, and actually weaving the insights into your daily life. Because a peak experience that doesn’t change how you show up on a random Tuesday hasn’t done its full job yet.

This work is especially potent for people healing from sexual trauma, exploring desire and embodiment, or seeking clarity in their relational lives.

What Actually Happens in Sessions

“I’ve said things to you I’ve never said out loud to another human. And it felt natural and okay to do so with you.” Many of my clients have shared things like this about our work together. That kind of naming is where we start. Mama always said that talk is cheap, so we’ll do the actual work of moving through the challenges, not just talking about them.

Sessions with me are warm but direct. If you’re looking for a therapist who mainly nods and reflects back at you for fiftysomething minutes, you’re in the wrong place. Spoiler alert: We’re going to get into it — your patterns, your history, how all of this lives in you and not just in your head, and how you actually want your life and relationships to look and feel. I’ll challenge you when it serves you, and I’ll meet you with compassion when you need that instead. Sometimes in the same session.

Over time, clients report that their communication becomes more effective, they are able to move like a team rather than enemies within their partnerships. Many share that their boundaries get clearer, and that pesky shame gets less noisy.

Conflict may never feel great, but because they know how to move through it, it’s no longer a big scary monster living under the bed. They start recognizing their patterns before they’re already inside them. Desire — whether that’s erotic or simply the desire for a life that feels like yours — starts to bubble and bloom. The relationships in their lives begin to reflect who they actually are, not who they learned to be.

I’m big on practical tools you can take out of our sessions and into your real life. What we do in the room has to show up at the dinner table, in the bedroom, and in the moments when you’re about to do the thing you’ve always done…and you catch yourself. So much power lives in the pause.

A Little About Me

I bring more than a clinical lens to this work. As the daughter of an immigrant and someone who left purity culture behind, I know firsthand how identity, faith, culture, and shame shape the way we move through the world and in relationships. These aren’t abstract concepts to me. They’re lived.

I’ve done my own work, and I’m still doing it. That’s not a disclaimer, it’s a credential.

For nearly two decades I’ve taught yoga and meditation, which shapes everything about how I work. I’m not just curious about what’s happening in your head; I’m interested in what’s happening in your whole self. Your nervous system, breath, places in your body where you hold the things you haven’t said yet. When it’s useful, I bring mindfulness and somatic awareness directly into our sessions.

My practice is sex-positive, kink-aware, and sex-worker-friendly. If you’ve ever felt judged, pathologized, low key or high key shamed by a therapist or doctor for your desires, your identity, or your choices, that stops here. This is a space where all of it is welcome, and none of it needs to be defended or explained away.

Reach Out. . .The First Conversation is Free

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